First, don't take it personal. Secondly, develop a tough exterior (thick skin).Next, think what if this was a client, how would I respond? Would I kick him/her to the side because they're inconsistent, because they're a hothead, because they have no steering, disorganized? No, you work around their needs. They give you a need they have and you learn to work around the differences. You can say fire the company, however the grass is not always going to be greener at the next one, it might be even worse.
Not saying you have to be a yes person, and not saying you have to be your boss’s shadow where they obtain all the credit from your ideas to help build their career, but typically if you make it sound like their response, or idea, or whatever, your chances of survival will be a lot more successful.
It's tough to deal with some personalities. You cannot run from everyone who clashes with your personality. And on the other hand we say we're dealing with an inconsistent boss, do we know that the boss doesn't think he's dealing with an inconsistent employee based on his aspect of what is taking place?
I don't believe people need to be mistreated in words or otherwise. At that point if that's the case you need to sit and speak with that person, always with diplomacy. Sometimes they really don't know the way they're coming across and in a lot of cases based on their routine they might not even know they’re being inconsistent. What they think is normal behavior, may in your eyes be inconsistent behavior. A person needs to view all the entities involved not just what makes them happy or what they perceive to be inconsistent.
If problems persist and you cannot cope some thoughts that may help are as follows. In summary of ideas offer by Gill Corkindale who is an executive coach and writer based in London, who focuses on global management and leadership she offers,
Try to make the relationship more professional. Let your boss know that you have deadlines and appointments to keep.
Be aware of your boss's moods but try not to be drawn in and avoid talking about their personal problems — change the subject.
Try to coach your boss into becoming more organized: ask to see their schedule, goals, and objectives and work together to plan things more effectively.
Don't collude with your boss by picking up the pieces and covering for him/her — don't always agree to stay late if there is a crisis.
Ask your boss for feedback on how you are performing and request opportunities to present your work in front of senior managers.
Build up your network in the organization — meet people for lunch, or drop by to ask how they are getting on. Let them know what you are doing and how you can help them. Ensure that they see you regularly and apart from your boss.
Think about your next career move and whom you need to approach to find out about other opportunities.
Recognize that you and your boss depend on each other but know the limits of that interdependence and when it is affecting you adversely. Start defining yourself clearly to your colleagues and stakeholders.
Make sure that you leave the office early at least once a week and don't be available for work or personal calls at the weekend
Focus on people and activities outside work that boost your confidence and make you feel better about yourself.
Remind yourself that if you don't act on the above, you will continue to fade away in the shadow of your demanding boss.
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Many bosses get involved in the adeptness of their job. A lot of bosses in many cases don’t realize how their behavior is affecting their sub-ordinates. Once you’ve approached and understand what issues you have and have done everything within your power to take care of yourself, and then if the problem persists consider the above thoughts. If then the boss is not receptive to your assistance it might be time to consider your options. But to automatically assume that you have inconsistencies is not fair for either party. One must consider if there are other options that you can turn to, or in fact could it be the particular task or tasks what’s creating the problems.
Stress, pressures from higher ups, demands, and timelines can play a part in many aspects of inconsistencies. Maybe the boss does realize but being human may not have time or the thought to ask for help for them self. Remember bosses are supposed to be inhuman and have all the answers. But really shouldn’t they be considered an employee to the circumstances and given just as much latitude to change as anyone with a bad habit. Consider checking all avenues before throwing in the towel, your boss just might be quite appreciative of the actions you’ve chosen to take.
http://blogs.hbr.org/corkindale/2010/04/stepping_out_of_your_boss_shad.html
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