I was talkin with a gentleman who was frustrated with the unemployment system and was bashing everyone no matter what part they had in the hiring process... See what I told him in my opinion.
Your aggravation and frustration is noted, but at least you still have a mortgage to pay. Meaning you have not lost it all yet. Many have lost everything. In my situation, I moved back to my hometown and am living with a 104 year old and a 78 year old who has dementia. The only thing I have left is a vehicle and a washer and dryer, a television and a coffee pot, oh and my computer. How embarrassing is that to be of my age depending on two older ladies to aid me. One more month and I'm probably going to lose my vehicle. Now I'm really up a creek without a paddle. How will I get to interviews or for that fact a job if offered? There will be no more money after this month. No one else owns a vehicle. My biggest fear even over death is always hoping and praying I would never fall victim to such an ordeal whereas "could I be forced at some point to live under the interstate like many homeless do?" It is a scary feeling.
However, as determined as my elders are despite their setbacks they are determined to help in any way possible. So do not feel you are the only one out there that faces such issues. Moreover, I do not say any of this seeking pity and sympathy. By no means is it anyone’s fault but the economy and mine. Nevertheless as burnt out as I am since I give it 150% everyday I get up, try to put on a good face, and give it 12 hours a day give or take some down time and assisting to the elders needs as a contribution to paying them back for what they do, 7 days a week, I'm determined not to give up. Something somehow, somewhere by the grace of God, I will pull through.
I have found getting all worked up and bashing the system, companies and others who work for the system really will not stop the process. You can adapt or fall prey.
As far as children are concerned, I would not want to live in their days ahead as the future progresses. Surely, things will change and a systematic rhythm will take place that smoothes thing out for their generations to survive the way things have become. I feel that the great American dream has been stifled and harnessed and put on the back burner for now. Unless the economic fallout changes and the economy balances out to meet what companies are trying to inflict by reducing pay scales kids of the future will have it just as hard if not harder.
All I can say is keeping up with technology, being flexible, ready at a moments notice, is all the kids as well as you and I can do at the moment and keep proceeding and not give up. Despite seeking an answer for the WHY's and the WHAT is going on... it really does not matter, companies owe nothing to anyone. They could just as easily close shop tomorrow as to hire 1000's. It is the way the fallout has come about. I truly respect your situation and in reading your reply's I feel you're senior over me and I can empathize with you on the downfall of all your years of hardwork watching it go out the window.
Saturday, September 18, 2010
Does Having Children Make You a Better Manager
Very controversial topic. Psychology Today depicts the answer as yes based on Joanne Stern, Ph.D., whom is a psychotherapist.
However, I would venture to turn the question around as “Have you learned proper management/leadership skills from being parented by your mother and father?” “What have you learned that makes you or has allowed you to follow this path?” “What makes you a better manager from what has been instilled in your thought process and values?” Not everything is driven by academics in school or what you are born with.
Children are just that, children, which are easily influenced day to day. The things you can attribute to possibly learning are building trust, improving communications, empowering but these same attibutes being respective of those who don't or can't have children, can be learned as a pet owner such as a dog owner or a cat owner.
You have to have and show discipline, you have to have and show patience, you have to give instructions, and many pets can be challenging. You have to be there when they are sick or do you let them expire? So does being a pet owner make you a better manager?
I think there are attributes that can very easily be depicted from your question, but not always. Example- I heard a story of a pastor who stood at the pulpit every Sunday preaching how to respect your wife, how you should treat them but people had heard the pastor was everything opposite he spoke about. When the story final broke the news, the pastor was exactly what he was saying not to be. He was mistreating his wife, beating her, disrespecting her. Does this mean he was a better pastor because he was married and capable of talking on the topic and practicing in public?
Therefore, IMHO, I do not really think by having a family and/or children makes you a better manager. You might be a little bit more aware of certain aspects. All in all I really think good management/leadership is and inert ability from what you’ve been taught, what you’ve learned, your beliefs, and how you deal with things and much has a lot to do with personality traits, Type A and Type B’s, not with how you rear your kids.
In the personality category, a Type B is a person who is introverted and Type A is extroverted. Type A’s make better leaders and tend to need the lime light, and like being in the middle of things, whereas Type B’s rather sit back and not be in the spotlight, not giving direction. This is not to say Type B’s cannot be a great leader but the inert desire to manage/lead is usually something you as a person want. Type B’s usually (not always choose) choose to be a follower. Does that mean a Type B because he/she does not want to manage/lead make him/her a good manager/leader if he/she now has children? We all know right from wrong, we all learn from different aspects but believing you are a better manager because you can base your experiences off of the ability to manage little people doesn’t mean you’re cut out to manage a business force.
You could actually start the discussion whereas is women better managers than men? It’s all perception and what your inert adeptness is to how you manage/lead. And if the case in point is true that women are better managers than men, then that would mean they get all the kudos for spending more time with the children that has taught them the many avenues to become better managers. Be careful what is imposed in belief.
http://www.thepracticeofleadership.net/.../peter-drucker-on-leadership/
http://managementhelp.org/ldr_dev/samples/samples.htm
However, I would venture to turn the question around as “Have you learned proper management/leadership skills from being parented by your mother and father?” “What have you learned that makes you or has allowed you to follow this path?” “What makes you a better manager from what has been instilled in your thought process and values?” Not everything is driven by academics in school or what you are born with.
Children are just that, children, which are easily influenced day to day. The things you can attribute to possibly learning are building trust, improving communications, empowering but these same attibutes being respective of those who don't or can't have children, can be learned as a pet owner such as a dog owner or a cat owner.
You have to have and show discipline, you have to have and show patience, you have to give instructions, and many pets can be challenging. You have to be there when they are sick or do you let them expire? So does being a pet owner make you a better manager?
I think there are attributes that can very easily be depicted from your question, but not always. Example- I heard a story of a pastor who stood at the pulpit every Sunday preaching how to respect your wife, how you should treat them but people had heard the pastor was everything opposite he spoke about. When the story final broke the news, the pastor was exactly what he was saying not to be. He was mistreating his wife, beating her, disrespecting her. Does this mean he was a better pastor because he was married and capable of talking on the topic and practicing in public?
Therefore, IMHO, I do not really think by having a family and/or children makes you a better manager. You might be a little bit more aware of certain aspects. All in all I really think good management/leadership is and inert ability from what you’ve been taught, what you’ve learned, your beliefs, and how you deal with things and much has a lot to do with personality traits, Type A and Type B’s, not with how you rear your kids.
In the personality category, a Type B is a person who is introverted and Type A is extroverted. Type A’s make better leaders and tend to need the lime light, and like being in the middle of things, whereas Type B’s rather sit back and not be in the spotlight, not giving direction. This is not to say Type B’s cannot be a great leader but the inert desire to manage/lead is usually something you as a person want. Type B’s usually (not always choose) choose to be a follower. Does that mean a Type B because he/she does not want to manage/lead make him/her a good manager/leader if he/she now has children? We all know right from wrong, we all learn from different aspects but believing you are a better manager because you can base your experiences off of the ability to manage little people doesn’t mean you’re cut out to manage a business force.
You could actually start the discussion whereas is women better managers than men? It’s all perception and what your inert adeptness is to how you manage/lead. And if the case in point is true that women are better managers than men, then that would mean they get all the kudos for spending more time with the children that has taught them the many avenues to become better managers. Be careful what is imposed in belief.
http://www.thepracticeofleadership.net/.../peter-drucker-on-leadership/
http://managementhelp.org/ldr_dev/samples/samples.htm
Confidence
You know I learned this not to long back. It's the fear of rejection. I guess it's easier to learn things the older you get. Yet they say you can't teach old dawgs new tricks. Anyhow, an older woman told me during a discussion about dating. Yes, I'm single and 50 and as most guys it has always been a low blow or an ego slap to be rejected when asking someone to dance or whatever it might be. I took her advice and turned toward my business ethics so to speak. She said, "Rejection is nothing to be afraid of. If someone rejects you, simply it’s a message that you do not want to be involved with that person anyway. That person actually saved you the problem of having to break up with them down the road so they weeded themselves out for you.
Using that analogy, it works in many ways with our business associations. I look at an interview as a sales call. If I am rejected, a sense of regret, a cold shoulder, I look at it as someone or a company I didn't want to associated with. If I approach someone to talk and if they turn away or has that attitude, well I can be diplomatic and friendly, but I don't have to do anything with them. If it's an association at work, l have to work with them not sleep with them. So I take the approach here is the information, I'm available to help, but if you don't want the help then it's their problem. Thick skin goes along way in business. I’m one that has to take control over that. I know myself and what I need to do under most circumstances.
Not everyone has the same personalities nor will all personalities click. Remember there are types A's and Type B's. Some need attention; some could care less about attention. Learn the personality traits and you might have whatever the problem is licked.
Also remember when you were a kid and you stood on stage in a play how hard it was to perform because mentally you knew 100 people was watching. Really, it's a mind over matter. That is why the bright light above and directly in front of you was there to blind you from those 100 people watching you. Now just smile and imagine no one is watching.
If you stop for a minute and realize what the purpose is you are doing whatever and block out what it is that bothers you, typically you can overcome many fears. Learn to block. It is like watching a football game; when the wife asks you to come empty the trash do you ever hear her? You do, but psychologically you don't because you've trained yourself to watch the game and nothing will interfere.
On a last note, despite what the fear is, performance, achievements, criticism, whatever, you do learn and maybe this is where you learn it as you get older since we’re always wanting to impress someone in our younger years. Don’t get me wrong we all even older people want to impress our boss but we take it with a grain of salt. As long as you give it your very best, you have done everything you possibly can within your power, stand-up and take note to yourself every time you stand in front of the mirror and say, I did my best, I’m proud of what I did and quit worrying what others say or think about you. You have to be happy with you. If you’re happy, the insecurities will eventually pass with time as you become more adept at being successful and when you do fall, pick yourself up, and learn from your mistakes knowing you know where the roadblock is and how to get around it.
In addition, one thing I’ve always carried with me from childhood that never gets old no matter how old you are is the ole saying of the little train that could…. The little train creeping up the hill thinking there is no way I can pull this load up that hill like the big trains can without slipping and going backwards… Keep saying to yourself I think I can, I think I can, I think I can, and eventually the little train started saying I know I can, I know I can, and when it’s all said and done you’ll stand straight and say to yourself I did it!
Using that analogy, it works in many ways with our business associations. I look at an interview as a sales call. If I am rejected, a sense of regret, a cold shoulder, I look at it as someone or a company I didn't want to associated with. If I approach someone to talk and if they turn away or has that attitude, well I can be diplomatic and friendly, but I don't have to do anything with them. If it's an association at work, l have to work with them not sleep with them. So I take the approach here is the information, I'm available to help, but if you don't want the help then it's their problem. Thick skin goes along way in business. I’m one that has to take control over that. I know myself and what I need to do under most circumstances.
Not everyone has the same personalities nor will all personalities click. Remember there are types A's and Type B's. Some need attention; some could care less about attention. Learn the personality traits and you might have whatever the problem is licked.
Also remember when you were a kid and you stood on stage in a play how hard it was to perform because mentally you knew 100 people was watching. Really, it's a mind over matter. That is why the bright light above and directly in front of you was there to blind you from those 100 people watching you. Now just smile and imagine no one is watching.
If you stop for a minute and realize what the purpose is you are doing whatever and block out what it is that bothers you, typically you can overcome many fears. Learn to block. It is like watching a football game; when the wife asks you to come empty the trash do you ever hear her? You do, but psychologically you don't because you've trained yourself to watch the game and nothing will interfere.
On a last note, despite what the fear is, performance, achievements, criticism, whatever, you do learn and maybe this is where you learn it as you get older since we’re always wanting to impress someone in our younger years. Don’t get me wrong we all even older people want to impress our boss but we take it with a grain of salt. As long as you give it your very best, you have done everything you possibly can within your power, stand-up and take note to yourself every time you stand in front of the mirror and say, I did my best, I’m proud of what I did and quit worrying what others say or think about you. You have to be happy with you. If you’re happy, the insecurities will eventually pass with time as you become more adept at being successful and when you do fall, pick yourself up, and learn from your mistakes knowing you know where the roadblock is and how to get around it.
In addition, one thing I’ve always carried with me from childhood that never gets old no matter how old you are is the ole saying of the little train that could…. The little train creeping up the hill thinking there is no way I can pull this load up that hill like the big trains can without slipping and going backwards… Keep saying to yourself I think I can, I think I can, I think I can, and eventually the little train started saying I know I can, I know I can, and when it’s all said and done you’ll stand straight and say to yourself I did it!
How Do You Deal with Inconsistent Bosses
First, don't take it personal. Secondly, develop a tough exterior (thick skin).Next, think what if this was a client, how would I respond? Would I kick him/her to the side because they're inconsistent, because they're a hothead, because they have no steering, disorganized? No, you work around their needs. They give you a need they have and you learn to work around the differences. You can say fire the company, however the grass is not always going to be greener at the next one, it might be even worse.
Not saying you have to be a yes person, and not saying you have to be your boss’s shadow where they obtain all the credit from your ideas to help build their career, but typically if you make it sound like their response, or idea, or whatever, your chances of survival will be a lot more successful.
It's tough to deal with some personalities. You cannot run from everyone who clashes with your personality. And on the other hand we say we're dealing with an inconsistent boss, do we know that the boss doesn't think he's dealing with an inconsistent employee based on his aspect of what is taking place?
I don't believe people need to be mistreated in words or otherwise. At that point if that's the case you need to sit and speak with that person, always with diplomacy. Sometimes they really don't know the way they're coming across and in a lot of cases based on their routine they might not even know they’re being inconsistent. What they think is normal behavior, may in your eyes be inconsistent behavior. A person needs to view all the entities involved not just what makes them happy or what they perceive to be inconsistent.
If problems persist and you cannot cope some thoughts that may help are as follows. In summary of ideas offer by Gill Corkindale who is an executive coach and writer based in London, who focuses on global management and leadership she offers,
Try to make the relationship more professional. Let your boss know that you have deadlines and appointments to keep.
Be aware of your boss's moods but try not to be drawn in and avoid talking about their personal problems — change the subject.
Try to coach your boss into becoming more organized: ask to see their schedule, goals, and objectives and work together to plan things more effectively.
Don't collude with your boss by picking up the pieces and covering for him/her — don't always agree to stay late if there is a crisis.
Ask your boss for feedback on how you are performing and request opportunities to present your work in front of senior managers.
Build up your network in the organization — meet people for lunch, or drop by to ask how they are getting on. Let them know what you are doing and how you can help them. Ensure that they see you regularly and apart from your boss.
Think about your next career move and whom you need to approach to find out about other opportunities.
Recognize that you and your boss depend on each other but know the limits of that interdependence and when it is affecting you adversely. Start defining yourself clearly to your colleagues and stakeholders.
Make sure that you leave the office early at least once a week and don't be available for work or personal calls at the weekend
Focus on people and activities outside work that boost your confidence and make you feel better about yourself.
Remind yourself that if you don't act on the above, you will continue to fade away in the shadow of your demanding boss.
End.
Many bosses get involved in the adeptness of their job. A lot of bosses in many cases don’t realize how their behavior is affecting their sub-ordinates. Once you’ve approached and understand what issues you have and have done everything within your power to take care of yourself, and then if the problem persists consider the above thoughts. If then the boss is not receptive to your assistance it might be time to consider your options. But to automatically assume that you have inconsistencies is not fair for either party. One must consider if there are other options that you can turn to, or in fact could it be the particular task or tasks what’s creating the problems.
Stress, pressures from higher ups, demands, and timelines can play a part in many aspects of inconsistencies. Maybe the boss does realize but being human may not have time or the thought to ask for help for them self. Remember bosses are supposed to be inhuman and have all the answers. But really shouldn’t they be considered an employee to the circumstances and given just as much latitude to change as anyone with a bad habit. Consider checking all avenues before throwing in the towel, your boss just might be quite appreciative of the actions you’ve chosen to take.
http://blogs.hbr.org/corkindale/2010/04/stepping_out_of_your_boss_shad.html
Not saying you have to be a yes person, and not saying you have to be your boss’s shadow where they obtain all the credit from your ideas to help build their career, but typically if you make it sound like their response, or idea, or whatever, your chances of survival will be a lot more successful.
It's tough to deal with some personalities. You cannot run from everyone who clashes with your personality. And on the other hand we say we're dealing with an inconsistent boss, do we know that the boss doesn't think he's dealing with an inconsistent employee based on his aspect of what is taking place?
I don't believe people need to be mistreated in words or otherwise. At that point if that's the case you need to sit and speak with that person, always with diplomacy. Sometimes they really don't know the way they're coming across and in a lot of cases based on their routine they might not even know they’re being inconsistent. What they think is normal behavior, may in your eyes be inconsistent behavior. A person needs to view all the entities involved not just what makes them happy or what they perceive to be inconsistent.
If problems persist and you cannot cope some thoughts that may help are as follows. In summary of ideas offer by Gill Corkindale who is an executive coach and writer based in London, who focuses on global management and leadership she offers,
Try to make the relationship more professional. Let your boss know that you have deadlines and appointments to keep.
Be aware of your boss's moods but try not to be drawn in and avoid talking about their personal problems — change the subject.
Try to coach your boss into becoming more organized: ask to see their schedule, goals, and objectives and work together to plan things more effectively.
Don't collude with your boss by picking up the pieces and covering for him/her — don't always agree to stay late if there is a crisis.
Ask your boss for feedback on how you are performing and request opportunities to present your work in front of senior managers.
Build up your network in the organization — meet people for lunch, or drop by to ask how they are getting on. Let them know what you are doing and how you can help them. Ensure that they see you regularly and apart from your boss.
Think about your next career move and whom you need to approach to find out about other opportunities.
Recognize that you and your boss depend on each other but know the limits of that interdependence and when it is affecting you adversely. Start defining yourself clearly to your colleagues and stakeholders.
Make sure that you leave the office early at least once a week and don't be available for work or personal calls at the weekend
Focus on people and activities outside work that boost your confidence and make you feel better about yourself.
Remind yourself that if you don't act on the above, you will continue to fade away in the shadow of your demanding boss.
End.
Many bosses get involved in the adeptness of their job. A lot of bosses in many cases don’t realize how their behavior is affecting their sub-ordinates. Once you’ve approached and understand what issues you have and have done everything within your power to take care of yourself, and then if the problem persists consider the above thoughts. If then the boss is not receptive to your assistance it might be time to consider your options. But to automatically assume that you have inconsistencies is not fair for either party. One must consider if there are other options that you can turn to, or in fact could it be the particular task or tasks what’s creating the problems.
Stress, pressures from higher ups, demands, and timelines can play a part in many aspects of inconsistencies. Maybe the boss does realize but being human may not have time or the thought to ask for help for them self. Remember bosses are supposed to be inhuman and have all the answers. But really shouldn’t they be considered an employee to the circumstances and given just as much latitude to change as anyone with a bad habit. Consider checking all avenues before throwing in the towel, your boss just might be quite appreciative of the actions you’ve chosen to take.
http://blogs.hbr.org/corkindale/2010/04/stepping_out_of_your_boss_shad.html
Friday, June 18, 2010
"You Can't Handle the Truth"
This blog is referencing people always asking why don't they get responses from hiring managers, recruiters, etc. whether it's a yes or no so they can moven on.
Have you ever run across this throughout your career, your dating life, your everyday living? People that say just tell me, "I can handle the truth".
Despite what people say off the cuff, I can honestly say from being a manager & on the dating circuit people cannot handle the truth. I know most will say oh you're full of bull Dennis. But realistically look at yourself & be truthful and ask yourself or go back & review past truths. As Jack Nicolson said,” You can't handle the truth”. Most of us from a psychological aspect say we can but it's our response that dictates if we can truly handle it. Dating a person and you want to break it off, what's the response, why, what did I do, I thought you liked me, what can I do to get you to like me- I'll be waiting for you when you get home with a surprise....you get the jest.
On the career circuit job hunting as stressful as it is; what response do you give or have you gave when someone tells you literally to your face, you didn't make the cut? You just weren't poised enough, your hair was grey, your tope was crooked, you used to many um's, a's, and you knows. They didn't like the watch or shoes you were wearing. Sure sounds trivial to most but what is our immediate response when backed into a corner? Why me, what did I do wrong, oh that company's an a**, oh Mr. recruiter you didn't work hard enough to get me in ... again you get the jest.
We ALL tend to get defensive or saddened and who takes the brunt of our responses but the one communicating the information to us. Imagine how a doctor feels coming out from an operation and telling the family members some bad news, he's gotta feel like c**p. In a lot of cases, not all; I'm sure the communicator feels just as bad because they have to listen to why you needed the job, and how little Johnny needs the operation and you don't have the money. Not to mention in such a sue happy world we live in can you simply imagine how many people would be in line to have an attorney just for someone saying "we didn't think they were yada yada .”
It makes sense to me although depressing and leaves you wondering what happened, where am I during the process to just let it go after a certain period of time you set for yourself.
Again I know you're thinking BS Dennis I can handle it, and maybe you can; one of the few the proud but you're just one person, look how many applicants are out there that aren't like you who can't handle the truth and make the whole entire effort counterproductive. Continued......
If people wouldn't be sue happy and complain about every little thing and able to “accept” <-keyword- that happens to them whether in rhetoric or real world experience; you stepped on my toe, the process could probably change.
I know this to be somewhat true from an example I'll use when having to lay someone off or fire them. Fortunately, I've learned when I've been laid off that it's strictly business & no one, absolutely no one is responsible for my future other than me. But to tell someone you're laying them off or firing them and screwing up their life is not pleasant task despite what they’ve done wrong. I literally experienced the latter of firing someone and had to contact the sheriff’s department to patrol the property for 2 weeks after me firing them. Sure they could handle the truth and the truth was in their vehicle, a 357 magnum. The person went loony. Sure recruiters maybe on the east coast and you on the west, but the analogy of truth is still a dilemma that can cause arguments or even stalking over the phone. A lot of people just won’t “let go” <- another keyword. The process won't change folks because we're all part of the process. We don't want to break bad news to anyone no more than others want to break it to us.
Of course this is simply just my opinions and my analogy and you know what opinions are like. I've gotten over the why they don't call syndrome and give them 3 days to 5days and move on still searching throughout those waiting periods just in case so I won't lose my momentum.
I know everyone who reads this can handle the truth, but for the moment, the system is stuck with the other 155 million that can't handle the truth! And that's my Psychology 101 class for today! :)
Have you ever run across this throughout your career, your dating life, your everyday living? People that say just tell me, "I can handle the truth".
Despite what people say off the cuff, I can honestly say from being a manager & on the dating circuit people cannot handle the truth. I know most will say oh you're full of bull Dennis. But realistically look at yourself & be truthful and ask yourself or go back & review past truths. As Jack Nicolson said,” You can't handle the truth”. Most of us from a psychological aspect say we can but it's our response that dictates if we can truly handle it. Dating a person and you want to break it off, what's the response, why, what did I do, I thought you liked me, what can I do to get you to like me- I'll be waiting for you when you get home with a surprise....you get the jest.
On the career circuit job hunting as stressful as it is; what response do you give or have you gave when someone tells you literally to your face, you didn't make the cut? You just weren't poised enough, your hair was grey, your tope was crooked, you used to many um's, a's, and you knows. They didn't like the watch or shoes you were wearing. Sure sounds trivial to most but what is our immediate response when backed into a corner? Why me, what did I do wrong, oh that company's an a**, oh Mr. recruiter you didn't work hard enough to get me in ... again you get the jest.
We ALL tend to get defensive or saddened and who takes the brunt of our responses but the one communicating the information to us. Imagine how a doctor feels coming out from an operation and telling the family members some bad news, he's gotta feel like c**p. In a lot of cases, not all; I'm sure the communicator feels just as bad because they have to listen to why you needed the job, and how little Johnny needs the operation and you don't have the money. Not to mention in such a sue happy world we live in can you simply imagine how many people would be in line to have an attorney just for someone saying "we didn't think they were yada yada .”
It makes sense to me although depressing and leaves you wondering what happened, where am I during the process to just let it go after a certain period of time you set for yourself.
Again I know you're thinking BS Dennis I can handle it, and maybe you can; one of the few the proud but you're just one person, look how many applicants are out there that aren't like you who can't handle the truth and make the whole entire effort counterproductive. Continued......
If people wouldn't be sue happy and complain about every little thing and able to “accept” <-keyword- that happens to them whether in rhetoric or real world experience; you stepped on my toe, the process could probably change.
I know this to be somewhat true from an example I'll use when having to lay someone off or fire them. Fortunately, I've learned when I've been laid off that it's strictly business & no one, absolutely no one is responsible for my future other than me. But to tell someone you're laying them off or firing them and screwing up their life is not pleasant task despite what they’ve done wrong. I literally experienced the latter of firing someone and had to contact the sheriff’s department to patrol the property for 2 weeks after me firing them. Sure they could handle the truth and the truth was in their vehicle, a 357 magnum. The person went loony. Sure recruiters maybe on the east coast and you on the west, but the analogy of truth is still a dilemma that can cause arguments or even stalking over the phone. A lot of people just won’t “let go” <- another keyword. The process won't change folks because we're all part of the process. We don't want to break bad news to anyone no more than others want to break it to us.
Of course this is simply just my opinions and my analogy and you know what opinions are like. I've gotten over the why they don't call syndrome and give them 3 days to 5days and move on still searching throughout those waiting periods just in case so I won't lose my momentum.
I know everyone who reads this can handle the truth, but for the moment, the system is stuck with the other 155 million that can't handle the truth! And that's my Psychology 101 class for today! :)
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Leadership
I think personalities have a lot to do with Leadership. Type A personality is aggressive, doesn't need the social stimulation that a Type B requires, may be more extroverted, more assertive. Type B personalities, are more introverted, have the need to have a social stimulation, and is less assertive, and doesn't want to hurt people’s feelings so to speak, and has a need to be liked.
It's my opinion that doesn't mean Type B's can't be a good leader. As indicated, leaders aren't born; they're made at least that’s what statistics tell us. With leadership training and mentoring I think anyone can be a good leader. You also have to know if that's what you want to do. I don't think you should put someone in a leadership role knowing themselves they can't do it or want to do it. But then on the other hand there's those that you put into leadership roles that are too aggressive and goes over the edge.
I think leaders to some degree do entail a certain quality despite being taught. I think a true leader has confidence in themselves and what they are out to achieve. They're enthusiastic and have great character. Would you want a leader you can't trust? Look at the situations in our world today. People who thought they could lead only to take a back seat because others were leading them. So a good leader has to be trustworthy, and also tolerant but able to keep things under control. Good leaders also want to be successful and have a drive for excellence. Meaning a true leader doesn't associate leadership with the large dollars they walk away with. There's a certain feeling of achievement they obtained and enjoyed just by being successful in what they set out to accomplish. Not everyone has that feeling. Let’s take a look at ourselves for instance. When we have a honey do that has be taken care of. Some of us can do it and go on our way and not think twice about it. Some of us do it with a sense of accomplishment, achievement a feeling of success.
I believe to have a good balance between a good leader; you should possess some of the personality, the drive, and the ability to map your own course in leadership. I also think you need to know those you are leading. The need and what they require, when they require it and why they get or don’t get what they want.
If we take a look at the animal kingdom and how animals lead if you've ever seen national geographic for instance when a particular animal thinks they have the ability to lead they face off with the head of the pack and the strongest survives or beats out the opposition. I think one has to know in themselves if they or a leader of a follower.
Also intelligence is a key to leadership. You have to be able to think irrationally and quick in a lot of aspects and circumstances. Now this is not saying that a person with a lack of intelligence is not smart, keen or whatever you want to call it. It’s a matter of some people can act upon situations with no trouble at all, whereas some that are less stimulated by intelligence may not be able to cope or act upon the same particular situation and fall short of confidence, scared, less acceptance.
So I think it’s quite a debatable subject whether one is born or one is taught. I think there’s many attributes from both sides of the spectrum that contributes to a good leader.
It's in my opinion that anyone who is interesed in learning more about leadership, leadership roles and becoming an effective leader learn from the grandaddy of them all, the father of leadership, Peter Drucker himself. I think it should be required reading when you get to a leadership role.
It's my opinion that doesn't mean Type B's can't be a good leader. As indicated, leaders aren't born; they're made at least that’s what statistics tell us. With leadership training and mentoring I think anyone can be a good leader. You also have to know if that's what you want to do. I don't think you should put someone in a leadership role knowing themselves they can't do it or want to do it. But then on the other hand there's those that you put into leadership roles that are too aggressive and goes over the edge.
I think leaders to some degree do entail a certain quality despite being taught. I think a true leader has confidence in themselves and what they are out to achieve. They're enthusiastic and have great character. Would you want a leader you can't trust? Look at the situations in our world today. People who thought they could lead only to take a back seat because others were leading them. So a good leader has to be trustworthy, and also tolerant but able to keep things under control. Good leaders also want to be successful and have a drive for excellence. Meaning a true leader doesn't associate leadership with the large dollars they walk away with. There's a certain feeling of achievement they obtained and enjoyed just by being successful in what they set out to accomplish. Not everyone has that feeling. Let’s take a look at ourselves for instance. When we have a honey do that has be taken care of. Some of us can do it and go on our way and not think twice about it. Some of us do it with a sense of accomplishment, achievement a feeling of success.
I believe to have a good balance between a good leader; you should possess some of the personality, the drive, and the ability to map your own course in leadership. I also think you need to know those you are leading. The need and what they require, when they require it and why they get or don’t get what they want.
If we take a look at the animal kingdom and how animals lead if you've ever seen national geographic for instance when a particular animal thinks they have the ability to lead they face off with the head of the pack and the strongest survives or beats out the opposition. I think one has to know in themselves if they or a leader of a follower.
Also intelligence is a key to leadership. You have to be able to think irrationally and quick in a lot of aspects and circumstances. Now this is not saying that a person with a lack of intelligence is not smart, keen or whatever you want to call it. It’s a matter of some people can act upon situations with no trouble at all, whereas some that are less stimulated by intelligence may not be able to cope or act upon the same particular situation and fall short of confidence, scared, less acceptance.
So I think it’s quite a debatable subject whether one is born or one is taught. I think there’s many attributes from both sides of the spectrum that contributes to a good leader.
It's in my opinion that anyone who is interesed in learning more about leadership, leadership roles and becoming an effective leader learn from the grandaddy of them all, the father of leadership, Peter Drucker himself. I think it should be required reading when you get to a leadership role.
Friday, April 30, 2010
Your Loss
During the previous post that I wrote I received a commentary from a respected recruiter touch base with me and gave me some insite into his day. I was quite taken by it and respected his reply.
My points that I made from the previous post was simply points made from my point of view but definitely had no meaning of showing disrespect for the field of discussion. And by no means was it meant to lash out at any particular person or their trade. I have no doubt as in any professional career recuiters do have their downsides, things that create bottleneck, areas that causes problems, etc. I appreciate the caos that was explained and would never challenge anyone in such a profession.
After reading his forum toward a recent posting he place to attract candidates he indicated that during this posting he recieved 72 applicants that applied in which they all thought they were qualified. After reviewing comments I wanted to make sure I wasn't misinterpreting people but that I didn't think people were complaining about themselves sending off CV's and getting no reply. I believed it's when hopes are built up by those that pose as the ultimate professional and call potential candidates, set appts with potential, list fake jobs to build their databases, don't know exactly the lingo to discuss the job they're representing and now have a list of people they're trying to shortlist and yet those people they've called get no response. I think that's what gives the position a bad name. You've made connection, you discussed the possibilities, you've offered to submit, but there's no follow-through. People are waiting in limbo, why did they call me, what can I expect, should I move on, take the next job that's being offered and if this person calls back tell them "sorry but no thanks"? Then ultimately the shoe is on the other foot, you're aggreviated, went through all that to hear "sorry but no thanks, couldn't sit around waiting, moved on".
Personnally which I might have never stated, I don't wait around for anyone to fulfill my destiny. I do think a lot of job seekers depend way to much on others to fulfill their needs and accept the lazy attitude of if they want me they'll call me. I've felt that way many a mornings I've woke. If I send something in or get a call, I talk to the individual or reply to their emails, etc. as requested. I give myself a set time frame for a response. If I get no response that's fine and dandy with me. My time is just as valuable. Just as jobseekers don't pay the recruiter, recuiters don't put food on my table and pay my bills so I have to keep business going by continuing my search. And we all know it's a full time job searching. There's always a disappointment and a wonder why, but I don't expect anyone to owe me anything. I take my lumbs, and simply think, "your loss" haha and move on. I keep looking and searching if one of those comes around that calls me I worry about it when the time comes.
My points that I made from the previous post was simply points made from my point of view but definitely had no meaning of showing disrespect for the field of discussion. And by no means was it meant to lash out at any particular person or their trade. I have no doubt as in any professional career recuiters do have their downsides, things that create bottleneck, areas that causes problems, etc. I appreciate the caos that was explained and would never challenge anyone in such a profession.
After reading his forum toward a recent posting he place to attract candidates he indicated that during this posting he recieved 72 applicants that applied in which they all thought they were qualified. After reviewing comments I wanted to make sure I wasn't misinterpreting people but that I didn't think people were complaining about themselves sending off CV's and getting no reply. I believed it's when hopes are built up by those that pose as the ultimate professional and call potential candidates, set appts with potential, list fake jobs to build their databases, don't know exactly the lingo to discuss the job they're representing and now have a list of people they're trying to shortlist and yet those people they've called get no response. I think that's what gives the position a bad name. You've made connection, you discussed the possibilities, you've offered to submit, but there's no follow-through. People are waiting in limbo, why did they call me, what can I expect, should I move on, take the next job that's being offered and if this person calls back tell them "sorry but no thanks"? Then ultimately the shoe is on the other foot, you're aggreviated, went through all that to hear "sorry but no thanks, couldn't sit around waiting, moved on".
Personnally which I might have never stated, I don't wait around for anyone to fulfill my destiny. I do think a lot of job seekers depend way to much on others to fulfill their needs and accept the lazy attitude of if they want me they'll call me. I've felt that way many a mornings I've woke. If I send something in or get a call, I talk to the individual or reply to their emails, etc. as requested. I give myself a set time frame for a response. If I get no response that's fine and dandy with me. My time is just as valuable. Just as jobseekers don't pay the recruiter, recuiters don't put food on my table and pay my bills so I have to keep business going by continuing my search. And we all know it's a full time job searching. There's always a disappointment and a wonder why, but I don't expect anyone to owe me anything. I take my lumbs, and simply think, "your loss" haha and move on. I keep looking and searching if one of those comes around that calls me I worry about it when the time comes.
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